SELF DEFENSE SCENARIO QUESTIONS by Lori Hoeck
Questions you may want to think about. I know it’s difficult to take a hard look at the list of questions below. They represent dangerous situations, and no one ever wants to feel inadequate or fearful at anytime in their life. If a person has never thought through danger, disaster, or self defense, they may be empty of options when disaster strikes. However, the more you think through your options beforehand, the more able your responses. People with even a small sense of control over their situation perform better that those who believe they have no control. When you realize you have options, you are enabled to take more effective action.
Please look over these questions and play some What Would I Do? scenarios through your mind. This is by no means an exhaustive list. You may know of similar instances from your life or stories told by friends or family members. When you are done, talk about them and visualize options:
✦ How far will I go to defend myself?
✦ What if someone walks into my school with a gun?
✦ What if someone picks a fight at a party? At a bar? At a family gathering?
✦ What if I’m in a store or bank that’s being robbed?
✦ What if my plane is hijacked?
✦ What if someone enters my church with a bomb?
✦ What can I do if attacked by more than one person?
✦ What will I do if the office sleaze propositions me?
✦ What if I wake up and a stranger is standing by my bed?
✦ What if I notice my front door lock is tampered with?
✦ What if I forget to monitor my drink at a party?
✦ What will I do if I get a text message that a shooter is in my building?
✦ What if someone starts showing road rage and tries to hit my car?
✦ What if a noise wakes me up, and I hear an intruder in the house?
✦ What if another parent at a youth sporting event threatens or strikes me?
✦ What if I work at a convenience store and someone pulls a gun on me?
✦ What if a date gets possessive in a way that freaks me out?
✦ What if my date starts to undress me and won’t listen to my objections?
✦ What if I’m walking by myself and notice someone following me?
✦ What if my car breaks down on the road, with no nearby help?
✦ What if my boss threatens to fire me if I don’t start dating him?
HOME SECURITY CHECKLIST
1. Are any of your valuables visible from the street or when at your front door?
2. Are inside your doors and windows visible from the street or from a neighbors view?
3. Are your doors accessing outside made of either solid wood or metal clad?
4. Are your entryways and pathways well lit at night?
5. Is your house number clearly visible from the street for police and fire?
6. Can you clearly see who's at the door? And without proper identification do you call the police before opening the door?
7. Do you have a cell phone in case of cut telephone wires?
8. Do you have a neighbor who has a spare set of keys to your home?
9. Do you have all your mail held at the post office when you travel? And your newspaper on vacation hold?
10. Do you have an emergency escape plan in case of break-in from any side of your house? Or how to escape from all rooms in case of a fire?
11. Do you have any yard signs or window decals that state your home is monitored?
12. Do you have fire extinguishers easily accessible throughout your home? Do you check their expiration once a year?
13. Do you have keyed deadbolt locks installed on all of your doors?
14. Do you have motion-sensor lights installed around your house?
15. Do you have secondary locks on sliding glass doors or do you secure the door with a dowel on the inside track?
16. Do you have secondary locks on your windows?
17. Do you have timers on your lights?
18. Do you keep an inventory of your personal property in case of theft? Photos or video of all valuables in a safe?
19. Do you keep medications out of sight from kids, guests and visitors?
20. Do you keep your valuables stored in a safety deposit box or safe?
21. Do you know your neighbors across the street and on all four sides of your home?
22. Do you leave a house key under your door mat or other easily accessible locations?
23. Do you lock the gate(s) to your backyard?
24. Do you lock up your grills, lawn mowers, bikes, or other outdoor valuables?
25. Do you lock all doors at night and every time you leave the house, even if it's just for a few minutes?
26. Do you cross shred documents with personal information before disposing them?
27. Do your doors fit tight in their frames?
28. Does your neighborhood have a neighborhood watch program?
29. Have all your doors been re-keyed since you moved in?
30. Have there been any break-ins in the neighborhood recently? Are your immediate neighbors aware of those facts also?
31. Have you secured any mail slots, dryer vents, or pet entrances that a burglar could enter through?
32. Is your home's exterior well lit?
33. Is your street well-lit at night?
34. Do you have a company that monitors your home alarm system?
35. Do you have surveillance cameras?
36. Do you have working carbon monoxide detectors?
37. Do you have working smoke detectors?
38. Do you store your ladders and tools in a locked garage or shed?
39. Have you installed a home security system?
40. Do you have your greenery trimmed to see down all sides of your home? Can you clearly see if someone was hiding in your greenery especially around doorways?
41. Do you carry with you some type of self-defense items especially when alone and/or after dark?
42. Do you have a neighbor or friend you can call immediately at times you suspect a problem or something doesn’t feel right?
43. Do you have a self-defense item in your car, by our bed, in your purse, accessible next to where you spend most of your evenings in your home?
44 Do you trust your intuition or gut feelings?
45. Do you have family, friends, neighbors or co-workers you stay in touch with regularly?
46. Do you need to add sliding locks to your automatic garage doors that can be opened/lifted from the outside?
47. Do you list all mail, packages or any listings using your initials instead of your first name?
News Articles of Interest:
Self-Defense Phone Applications:
Circle of 6 * Women Safety * bSafe * Guardly * Red Panic * React Mobile * Stay Safe * Watch Over Me
How to use a Kubotan.
A Kubotan is about a six-inch-long weapon made of either wood, plastic or metal about as thick as a marking pen and fairly light. It can easily be transported and concealed. They are very inexpensive and can be purchased easily. It is a simple yet versatile self-defense instrument. It can be used to strike someone with the ends or to punch with it. Do not use it to whip keys attached into someone for this will cause little damage and just annoy many attackers.
It is perfect for a smaller person to up their striking/hitting power. When you hit someone’s soft spot you will either knock them out temporarily or cause a lot of damage. Best results occur when hitting soft spots. The best way to hold it is in the middle so you can strike someone using either end in a downward or upward strike. You can also put a thumb on one end or put your hand behind one end to increase the striking blow.
Keep your Kubotan concealed. You do not want to give your attacker notice. Hit soft spots as well as a collar bone, base of skull, elbows and hands. Practice holding and striking with your Kubotan. Practice by hitting hard surfaces to get use to any movement the Kubotan will have in your hand. An alternative item is a “tactical pen”. I recommend with wavy shape for grip; and black. Buy two with one for practice.
How to use Pepper Spray.
Pepper spray can be very effective. First become comfortable with a strong hold on the container of pepper spray. Get use to gripping and flipping the lock on and off. After every use of pepper spray get a new container. It is better than hoping you have enough left from last time. Know what distance you can spray. You always want to have a good safe distance between you and the attacker. Buy an extra container just to learn how to use pepper spray. Do it outdoors away from any living thing.
When spraying keep your arm about half extended not fully extended this gives you better control. Use your other arm to guard your spraying arm. Always carry your canister in your hands during any possible vulnerable situation. If you have any doubt about your safety be ready. You can stay prepared by holding the canister in a pocket in its on position. Know thoroughly how to arm and disarm your canister so it doesn’t accidently discharge and do not disarm it until you know you are safe.
For almost all people when they are sprayed in the eyes they will close their eyes giving you the opportunity to escape. But be sure you were thorough in your spraying to have gotten both eyes well. As soon as you know you have gotten both eyes then immediately escape. It is important to stay calm as you keep your eyes on the threat at hand.
How to use a Stun Gun.
Considered better than pepper spray and a more efficient in stopping and taking someone down. But you must know your weapon/tool so that it works for you and doesn’t get taken from you. Know your particular stun gun and what it can do. As soon as you get your stun gun learn how to use it well. Get familiar with all its parts and how it feels; how to turn in on and off. Then when you need it you are ready.
The best area to hit your target is between the neck to the bottom of the truck of the body. It is the largest part and the most effective part. If you can’t get to that part of the body, then aim for all meaty parts of the legs or shoulders. Know that you won’t be affected by contacting any part of the attacker being stunned. Though make sure you do not let the prongs touch your body. When you come in contact with your assailant hold on about 3-5 seconds. Be safe by ensuring your stun gun stays well charged.